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Meghan, Duchess of Sussex faced her fair share of criticism when she was in the royal family, forcing her and Prince Harry to feel their only choice was to leave their royal duties behind. One expert believes that Meghan struggled with that “failure” because she’s such a perfectionist.

Meghan Markle visits Te Papaiouru Marae for a formal powhiri and luncheon on October 31, 2018 in Rotorua, New Zealand
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Meghan Markle thought the media would be ‘fair’

During an interview for the 2019 documentary Meghan & Harry: An African Journey, Meghan shared how her friends had warned her about the negative media attention she would face by marrying Prince Harry.

She told ITV commentator Tom Bradby that the warning surprised her. “In all fairness I had no idea, which probably sounds difficult to understand here. But when I first met my now-husband, my friends were really happy because I was so happy but my British friends said to me, ‘I’m sure he’s great but you shouldn’t do it because the British tabloids will destroy your life,’” she said.

Meghan continued, “And I very naively — I’m American. We don’t have that there — [I said], ‘What are you talking about? That doesn’t make any sense. I’m not in any tabloids.’ I didn’t get it. So it’s been, yeah, it’s been complicated.”

She braced herself for the scrutiny, but it was still difficult. “The biggest thing that I know is that I never thought that this would be easy, but I thought it would be fair and that’s the part that’s really hard to reconcile,” Meghan explained.

Meghan Markle struggled with the ‘failure’ of not succeeding in the royal family, expert claims

When Prince Harry and Meghan announced that they planned to step back, the news wasn’t all that shocking, given that they had both expressed how challenging their life in the spotlight had become.

The Sussexes were unable to strike a half-in/half-out deal to split their time between North America and the UK and they made their official exit on March 31.

In an opinion piece written for The New York Times, journalist Tanya Gold claims that Meghan found the exit to be a “failure” that she struggled with because she’s such a “perfectionist.”

“She is a perfectionist, and her failure to succeed at royalty clearly grates,” Gold explained.


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Expert claims ‘Finding Freedom’ feels like Meghan Markle’s ‘testimony’

The expert further pointed to the book Finding Freedom as providing Meghan’s “testimony” for explaining the exit, even though the Sussexes claimed they didn’t collaborate with the book’s authors.

According to Gold, Finding Freedomfeels like autobiography,” She writes, “This book says: I did my best. I could not have done more. But the truth is, she did too much.”

“The best insight in Finding Freedom is from a former senior courtier, who compares Meghan with the silent — and therefore now adored — Catherine,” Gold continues. “Meghan ‘talks about life and how we should live,’ the courtier told the authors. ‘That’s the way in America. In Britain, people look at that and go, ‘Who do you think you are?'”